Happy 60th mom!

A Tribute to Mom on what would have been her 60th Birthday

Dear Mom,

Happy 60th birthday! Reflecting on this milestone, I am grateful for the incredible woman you were and the profound impact you had and still have on my life. Now that I am a parent myself, I find myself marveling at how you were able to raise three children on less than $24,000. Your dedication and sacrifices do not go unnoticed.

I often stressed about our kids' future and private schools, but then I remember, in the wee hours of the morning, you stood in line to secure a spot for us in a public school that offered opportunities for our future. Your commitment to us as children and to society as a whole is my constant source of inspiration.

Memories flood back from our time in the projects in Chicago, where we had only one recliner chair. You held me close, reassuring me not to look around at the pests that seemed as big as me. In those moments, you read "The Little Prince" to me, emphasizing the importance of curiosity, family, learning, and education. I have “you see clearly through your heart, the essential’s invisible to the eye.” Those early lessons shaped who I am today.

As I approached your 60th birthday, I couldn't help but feel a sense of melancholy. We had plans for milestone birthdays, which circled back to your deep desire to travel. Your insatiable curiosity was infectious, and I recently watched the DVD of your high school reunion, realizing how your passion and thoughtfulness ignited my passion for the work I now do.

Your experiences and love of Mississippi left a lasting impression on me. Despite the challenges, you felt protected by both Black and white students, forming a version of a family. When people express sympathy for my Mississippi roots, especially as an LGBTQ+ individual, I remember those moments between feeling at home and being cared for by my neighbors and community. After all, if not for that community’s support, I would have been in a jail cell instead of the beautiful Duke campus at 18.

I owe my outlook on life to your teachings – that character, substance, and potential matter more than anything else. Thank you, Mother, for instilling these values, even under dire circumstances. As I navigate the world with my venture firm and wealth salons, I strive to make others feel how you made people feel every day of your short 48 years.

The void your absence left is palpable, and I find solace in the standing-room-only attendance at your funeral. You made a profound impact with fewer resources than many prominent figures today. On your 60th birthday, I celebrate your legacy, knowing that your children are finding their paths and your grandsons are bright and spirited – and unmistakably your kin.

Instead of traditional gifts to the Suzi Franklin Scholarship Fund and the Lupus Foundation, this year, I am excited to create something to share your story and the stories of many Black women. Your passing in 2012 revealed the flaws in our medical system, inspiring me to dedicate my efforts to support and uplift Black women every day.

Mom, I love you, and I hope this tribute scratches the surface of your impact

on my life. Everything we did was to make you proud and honor the extraordinary person you were. Here's to you, Mom, and to creating a world that reflects the love, respect, and admiration you and countless others deserve.

Happy birthday, and may your legacy continue to shine brightly.

With love, your first baby, B.